Confused punishment was something I had a hard time coping with just a few years ago, whereas now feeling… well.. like Mr.Bean does here. I ignore when not worth it, whereas other days… well… lets just say I can advocate for myself I am happy and I am free.
Confused Punishment: When you encounter poor treatment/further penalty based on the side effects of treatment/ medication/ physical or emotional stress from a Brain Tumour.
Examples 1. Dirty looks from strangers thinking you are drunk, when out learning to walk again, swerving. 2. Secretaries being personally offended/ blatantly rude if missed appointment, not realizing you forgot to write a reminder not to forget the appointment 3. Judging a RBF in social situations, when you are fighting a anxiety attack off inside
Seeing this gif. of Mr.Bean instantly makes me smile- admittedly I even giggle like a teenage girl- as it reminds me of my reaction to confused punishment these days. However, it wasn’t always this way. There were dozens of difficult moments when these instances happened- I guess you can say I have forced myself through this storm by turning my anger into determination. 5 years of determination to convalesce close to 90% makes me proud and strong of the accomplishments made, and-then-some. This wouldn’t be possible to those who have supported me- people like you, who are reading this right now, thank you.
The Toastmaster “Toastee Times” Newsletter Showcased Day By Day in their summer 2014 newsletter.
* Book title: Day By Day * Author’s name: Melissa Nichols * Price: $15 * Audience: Adult, non-fiction
* Ordering information: http://melissanichols.ca, invoice sent through paypal or Square
* Author’s credentials: Diploma in Activation Coordinator (George Brown College), BA Gerontology (McMaster University), 10+ years work experience in Long Term Care in front line and management, Foreward written by rock group Keyboardist/musical director Simon Kendal of Doug & The Slugs
* A brief summary of the book’s contents: The instant transformation from healthy go-getter to dependent patient from an unexpected brain tumor and the road to recovery. A lighthearted (and even at times, funny) recount of the 360 degree patient experience & recovery of a 28 year old woman.
* Back cover of book: ” I had a real taste of what it is like to be a patient. My experiences as a student of healthcare, working in long-term care homes, taking care of a couple of loved ones who were sick and volunteering for a hospice all gave me insight. But I had always been as healthy as healthy can be;; I was not on any maintenance medications and never took painkillers for even a headache, which I seldom if ever got. I had no disorders, diseases, infections, allergies, or even sensitivities. As a result of living the city life, I walked virtually everywhere I went. Then, in the blink of an eye, I was lying in a hospital bed with a few hours until surgeons would remove a brain tumor. The tables have turned; I was now the patient for the first time.”